The other day, I was having a deep conversation about personal growth and embracing change: My friend does not believe in spirituality, and he says that he is agnostic — more towards the atheist side.
My friend also has a big mind, he can talk about math, numbers, statistics and the universe in a profound scientific way. His view of the world is very much different from most and his ex-girlfriends used to complain about how robotic he is.
One common topic that we both agreed on was self-development and self-love. I asked him; “Would you want to transform and grow?” He replied; “I don’t think that there is part of me that I would like to improve because I love the way I am.”
I asked him more questions and later realized that he was afraid of change, and going through the uncomfortable phase of growth and transformation like most of us.
My friend later confessed to me that he does not want to be disturbed by having to go through the tedious motions of personal transformation.
Before I met my Twin Flame, I used to assume that Personal transformation is for the lucky few who find Enlightenment. More so, I was happy with living in dogma — everyday ruts race, where I was just existing.
I was very afraid of CHANGE. More so, I was very afraid of facing myself and giving myself love. I was not interested in rediscovering another version of myself. I was content with sleepwalking through my life.
My Twin Flame encounter changed my perspective of myself, my life and the meaning of unconditional love.
The reason why Twin Flames have a fear of being loved by each other is a deep-seated personal fear in each Twin Flame which is triggered by their encounter. It is not something that they have against each other but rather, it is the emotional battle that they fight within themselves against the fear of being loved.
Your Twin Flame breaks down your ego and insecurities leaving you feeling naked to the connection. The vulnerability pushes the Twin Flames to hide their feelings from each other especially if they are not used to feeling sensitive or emotional.
In my case, my Twin Flame is very stoic — he puts on a shell where he pretends as if he can’t be affected by how he felt. He can pretend that he is okay to everyone but when he is melting within with emotions. Unlike for me, I am always gushing with emotions, and I tell him everything that I feel which makes him so uncomfortable because I break his shell down.
There are so many reasons why some people are afraid of feeling love or being loved but soon or later, what Twin Flames feel for each other is deeper than any connection that they ever felt that they are always inspired by unconditional love to heal their fears, wounds, and pain to be a perfect Twin Flame Union with each other.
Thank you for asking this question and I hope that my answer helps you.