Fear is usually the driving force for every runner’s behaviour. The most important lessons that I learned about fear in general is that fear is the opposite of love.
When you have inhibited all sorts of unexplainable fears, you feel insecure; you are always restless, uncomfortable, nervous, and constantly in alignment with the ego. The Runner Healing Guide: How to Return to the Chaser.
I also learned that all my fears were amplified when I avoided the now moment: I tended to either project my thoughts into the future which left me feeling anxious all the time. Or, sometimes I would focus all my energy on the past which also left me feeling sad, guilty, and regretful. Managing Separation Pain: How to recover and heal your pain and Soul Shock.
When my Twin Flame and I went into the running and chasing cycle, we came to a phase where we could not differentiate between the runner and the chaser. We both oscillated between running and chasing depending on the core issues we needed to work on.
Abandonment Issues: (Twin Flame Runner Fears)
When you love a Twin Flame, the connection goes deeper than what the mind can comprehend. You have no control over how deep the bond runs; you feel exposed and disarmed after meeting your divine lover. Since the bond that Twin Flames share is sacred and indestructible, you feel like you have no choice but to submit to feeling the deep love connection. The infamous Twin Flame Separation Phase: A blessing in disguise.
If you have abandonment issues — early childhood trauma from neglect by those who raised you, the connection triggers all the pain that you had buried within you. Since I was neglected as a child, I had never felt unconditional love before. No one had ever shown it to me either.
My Twin Flame was the first person ever in this lifetime to see me for who I am. He also showed me, unconditional love, even though I felt unworthy of it. Twin Flame Awakening; What are the Authentic Signs of meeting a Twin Flame?
When we physically separated, my fears of abandonment amplified. I thought that he would eventually leave me to forget me like most people did in the past. I pushed him away before he left me; I thought that I was protecting myself from feeling hurt like it happened in the past. Twin Flame Chaser Pain: How to Recover from Separation. How do you focus on your life instead of trying to control the relationship?
I believe that when you are an empath and a Twin Flame, your fears are magnified depending on whose judgment you fear the most. It is a “spotlight effect” feeling that you carry with you everywhere you go. I always assumed that the people around me were more attuned to my energy as much as I was attuned to theirs. I always felt like someone was somewhere watching me. Karmic Partners: How do you focus on yourself when you know that your Twin Flame is married to someone else?
I felt like I had a shadow following me everywhere I went. I learned later on along my Twin Flame journey that I was afraid of being judged by my peers. I always cared about what others thought of me — I always looked for approval from others to feel comfortable with my decisions.
I carried so many unexplained fears that it affected how I related and connected with others. This kind of life situation affected how I saw myself; my identity and my self-image. It also affected how I made daily decisions which later shaped my life and perspective towards the world generally. If you desire a harmonious physical reunion with your Twin Flame, you must make it your daily goal to pursue it. Work hard to fix your life so that you feel ready to be together with your Twin Flame.
I felt uncomfortable around others; I thought that people could see through me and see the parts of myself that I worked so hard to hide from the world. I built walls around myself and my heart — I kept to myself of the time. Coupled with childhood abandonment issues, I preferred solitude to spend time with people.
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