Almost every Twin Flame has been through this phase. You never expect the situation to get complicated the way it does. No matter how much you try to control the chaos that follows suit, your efforts are fruitless.
The Twin Flame journey takes its course with uncontrollable changes that transform each Twin Flame forever.
At the same time, your partner is irritated by your actions. They try different ways to avoid you because you trigger uncomfortable feelings within them.
The similarity is that both Twin Flames are inhibiting fears of different sorts. The fears repel each other in so many different ways:
Ever wonder why small fights are exaggerated with your Twin Flame? Why do you feel explosive feelings when you are with them?
Even though the Twin Flame journey is divinely guided, there is a certain power that you have as a Twin Flame to be responsible for the outcomes of your Twin Flame experiences.
Whatever your dreams and desires are for your Twin Flame experiences, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve them no matter the obstacles that stand in the way.
Believe in the outcomes of your Twin Flame journey like you have nothing to lose because soon or later, all your heart’s desires will come true.
If you want to be successful at creating the desired life of your Twin Flame reunion, you must believe that you are capable of making it happen — you have to believe in your experiences and the connection that you feel whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence, self-assurance.
Believing in yourself as a Twin Flame is a deep-seated belief that you have the inner power to control yourself, embrace change, and accept to grow and transform into the authentic version of yourself that is ready for a reunion.
Having faith and belief in your Twin Flame experiences is an attitude that you develop over time by breaking free from self-limiting beliefs, and the negative conditioning that you previously went through before the encounter. It is your responsibility to take charge of your self-concepts and beliefs because, at the end of the day, the only person that you can control is yourself.
Believing in yourself also requires you to assume in favor of yourself, act as if it is possible and do the things that are necessary to bring about the desired results. You can accomplish anything if you simply believe that it is possible.
Remember that being a runner or chaser from a relationship view is only a matter of perspective — From my experience, since Twin Flames are one in the soul, there is no distinction to the inflow of their energy because of the shared energy vibration but if you look at it from the physical perspective, it may seem like one is either a runner or a chaser.
I believe that the roles of being a chaser or a runner in Twin Flame can flip flop depending on the energy dynamics of the Twin Flames.
Even if you believe that you are the chaser, you still feel your Twin Flame’s energy within you so that means that you also have an idea of what it means to be a runner. Also, the energy easily changes back and forth from being a runner to being a chaser.
When I ran from him at the beginning of our separation, I was chasing him with my mind and my energy because I was obsessed with thinking of him and I kept wondering what he thought of me when I ran from him.
When he said that I make him “uncomfortable” and it was best if we did not talk, I grew feelings of chasing because that triggered my insecurities of abandonment and the fear of losing him.
Even if he was not responding to my texts, I wrote him a very long letter explaining my awakening, and I thanked him for Ignoring me and hiding from me because it made me stronger to focus on healing myself. I told him about my future aspirations, my goals, and my dreams to simplify my life and also focus on my life mission to help others like I always dreamed of.
Opening up myself like this to him gave me so much inner freedom because I knew that he knows that I am not upset with him for ignoring me, and he knows that I am going to keep myself happy without him being physically present in my life.
After I opened up to him, it opened me up completely to embrace my healing to keep living my life — slowly as I settled into surrender, I started to have the inner freedom to not obsess about my Twin Flame.
I don’t know what you would call this but after two years of being physically separated, I went through so much pain and I am now happy on my own without the help of my Twin Flame.
It is a journey that you take within yourself; it is an exploration of what makes you – rediscovering your authenticity.
As you progress further along your journey, you realize that you are mirrors of each other. You feel the same way your Twin Flame feels because you operate as a single energetic unit. You have the same frequency of energetic vibration.
The physical separation phase that you go through tests your faith in love. There are moments when you want to give up on your Twin Flame if they are running from you. The heart feels stuck on them.
Any thoughts that you have about severing the bond scare you; it feels impossible to detach from a Twin Flame.
Sometimes you will be in disbelief that you are feeling pure unconditional love. On other days will feel like you are going crazy; you will wonder if you are making it all up in your mind.
The connection is what it is; you have to always believe in how you feel.
Be ready to face your greatest fears. You will go through very trying moments:
There are days when you will feel like letting go altogether; you will feel frustrated by the loneliness when you miss a Twin Flame.
The emotional desolation that you will feel cannot be quenched by anything else but Twin Flame love. It is possible to overcome the stressful phases of the Twin Flame process.
Missing a Twin Flame is like missing a limb. The soul always aches to be merged in every aspect of it.
Everyone has a Twin Flame somewhere out there:
Everyone deserves to experience great unconditional love. You are blessed to be one of the lucky few who get to meet their great love in this lifetime.
If your experience does not align with the advice of other Twin Flames, don’t fret it. Just know that everyone experiences the process differently.
Some people’s experiences can also mirror yours sometimes. It does not mean that you are the same. We are all unique as human beings, and so is each Twin Flame pair.
I made a lot of mistakes when I was new to the Twin Flame journey because I did not have a guide.
The Twin Flame experience is under the influence of divine timing:
You must align yourself with the process of the journey and flow with it instead of resisting the connection.
Keep your heart open to receive your blessings.
When you learn to unlock each piece of the puzzle of your Twin Flame process, you start to understand the true meaning of each lesson that you learned along the way.
I have been thinking of this lately. I remember when I first ran from my Twin Flame. I did not know then that it was a Twin Flame experience. I was very overwhelmed by the intense Twin Flame feelings.
I tried to talk to my friends about my situation; but no one understood me. It sounded very complicated to anyone who is not a Twin Flame.
I would never have transformed, grown, and evolved into my authentic self if I did not run from him.
Before I disconnected from him, I knew deep in my soul that the connection is real. I also knew that if he felt the same, we would eventually run into each other again.
After you give up the stress of stalking your Twin Flame; the obsession and mind control tactics, you become free of fear.
Interestingly, your Twin Flame recognizes the changes in your energetic vibrations. They feel your energy being withdrawn. The energetic withdrawal creates a void within the runner Twin Flame.
Apart from learning that the connection is authentic, the runner misses the Twin Flame deeply.
The love connection grows strongly once the chaser stops chasing. Chaos also takes over the runner’s life because the chaser’s behaviors trigger them into an accelerated spiritual awakening phase.
Even though the chaser finds healing and inner harmony, you miss your Twin Flame as much as they miss you.
Missing a Twin Flame can compel you to reach out to them, or you both contact each other at the same time.
If the runner Twin Flame is still hurting within themselves, you cannot influence their actions in any way. You have to give them the space they need to heal.
Sometimes the runner starts chasing; it is a typical sign that they still have issues to deal with.
Why do you come back now? If the first question that you ask. Since you did not expect their return, you feel frustrated because your Twin Flame brings chaos.
If you have unhealed wounds, you run from your Twin Flame because they are your mirror. They trigger you to feel sensitive, vulnerable, and uncomfortable.
Acknowledge that your fear exists but do not let it keep you from doing the necessary tasks. Allow yourself to feel the uncomfortable feelings of fear so that you can have a higher chance of overcoming your obstacles.
Some fears are self-created; you frighten yourself by fantasizing about adverse outcomes of any activity you might pursue or experience.
You can stop the self-created fear by bringing yourself to a place of clarity and peace. You have to face the facts instead of giving in to your imagination.
Almost every Twin Flame has been through this phase. You never expect the situation to get complicated the way it does. No matter how much you try to control the chaos that follows suit, your efforts are fruitless.
The journey takes its course with uncontrollable changes that transform each Twin Flame forever.
The running or chasing behavior exists to expose the fears and pain that exist within each Twin Flame.
If you are the chaser, you feel consumed by the love connection; you obsessively need to be in close contact with your divine partner.
At the same time, your partner is irritated by your actions. They try different ways to avoid you because you trigger uncomfortable feelings within them.
The similarity is that both Twin Flames are inhibiting fears of different sorts. The fears repel each other in so many different ways: Ever wonder why small fights are exaggerated with your Twin Flame? Why do you feel explosive feelings when you are with them?
When you are around your Twin Flame, they provoke the inner fears and insecurities within. You feel like you are walking on eggshells. You feel a sense of vulnerability all the time.
You realize that you waste so much time and energy when you chase a Twin Flame. In essence, you are running from yourself. Running from yourself means that you are afraid of facing yourself. You chase a runner because you assume that they will help you feel better about yourself. You think that the solutions to your problem are with a reunion. You are the solution to all your problems. This sounds like cold comfort but I have realized that chasing a Twin Flame happens for a reason.
You cannot control it. Every time you chase, you feel compelled to do a self-check-up. You wonder why you cannot control the urges. You also feel like you do not need to chase them but you still do. Also, you know that the connection is authentic. You feel it even though deny it. You also know that it existed before you both triggered it. Surrender means that you respect the connection. You trust it. You also trust yourself to let go of controlling how your situation should manifest.
You respect divine timing. You respect the fact that it is all destiny — whatever brought you together will also make a reunion happen. It is also emotional maturity. You know that you cannot bend your Twin Flame’s will. He or she can choose to run into a new relationshipif they wish. Your only hope is that they will come to their senses and respect your connection. You hope that someday, a Twin Flame will come back and acknowledge your connection. Until then, you pray that they think of you as much as you do. You learn to love them unconditionally during their absence. You also pray that whomever they love reminds them of you.
You learn to accept your new life situation. Surrender also means you accept yourself. This is when you start practicing self-love. You let life take its course as you accept the new changes. You realize it was for the best that a Twin Flame ran from you. You needed to face yourself. You needed to find your authenticity. You needed to become the Twin Flame that you are.
