If you have met your Twin Flame, you already know how he or she makes you feel when you are in the same room. More so, you also understand that you share the same core energetic signature. You have the same blueprint. You are one in the soul. Because of the same shared energetic vibration, you feel each other all the time. You live inside each other. You have dreams of each other. And, you always think of each other.
When a Twin Flame is missing you, you feel a heart pulling. You feel a soft wave of pain — you know that the feelings of sadness are not yours. I woke up today feeling happy. I had everything planned for the day.
Suddenly, I was hit with a wave of chaotic emotions. I felt restless. I could not concentrate on anything important. I tried to do different things to distract myself. The more I ignored the sad feeling, the more helpless I felt. I had to halt everything that I was doing. I felt unmotivated to focus on anything.
I could feel the heart pulling still. I do feel it now. The sad feeling has taken over my day — I took a day off. I have decided not to ignore the feeling. Whatever is happening in my Twin Flame’s life right now must be reminding him of me. I feel him pull me in energetically; I feel him thinking of me. I have no idea why I feel him so much today. I still feel restless as I write this. I think that he is watching my social media; I have been expressing myself in a positive way because of my new energetic vibration. I am full of light and love. I want to share my happiness with the world. The Twin Flame journey has blessed me with Happiness.
If you look closely, the situation usually asks for the running behavior — even though it angers and frustrates you, your Twin Flame’s love for you does not change. I have learned that if I did not encounter the obstacles that I have overcome during my Twin Flame Journey, I would never have gone through the accelerated changes and growth. Keep in mind, that I was the runner.
Your Twin Flame is a reflection of you in so many ways and no matter how much anger they bring to you, you know that deep down you have so much pain to overcome, or else, you wouldn’t be triggered to feel stressed about their actions.No matter what your Twin Flame is NOT doing, love should not hurt but heal you instead. You should not feel frustrated for loving someone; Twin Flame love must inspire you to find inner healing, happiness, and self-rediscovery.
Every time I chased my Twin Flame, I was frustrated because I could not control the compulsive behavior and I craved to find an inner balance to love him yet leave him alone. You have to know that your Twin Flame is not going anywhere and even though you are having an estranged relationship, you are both haunted by the intense feelings of unconditional love for each other.
The frustration that you feel is not because your Twin Flame is not treating you right but rather, it is because you have not yet developed an emotional muscle to accept that what you feel comes from within you and not by their actions.
Your Twin Flame can do whatever they please and you can also do you! Either way, they feel you as much as you feel them and they also have no justification for their behavior the same way you are confused by yours.
Focus on figuring out yourself and the rest will fall in place because you are the centerpiece of your Twin Flame experiences; you are the steering wheel. Your Twin Flame’s behavior says so much about you!
When you meet a Twin Flame, it is at a point in your life when you need a fresh perspective on your life situation. You feel exhausted from your daily routines. You crave changes in your life. You feel lost and alone even though you are surrounded by many people.
The time a Twin Flame finds you, it is a moment in your life when you feel disconnected from everyone around you. You feel weary and exhausted from chasing meaningless relationships. You get to a place within yourself when you crave a deeper connection. You realised that even though you date many people, there is someone special made for you.
When you meet your Twin Flame, you do not realize that your search is over until you look into his or her eyes. You feel drawn to your Twin Flame. You wonder how you know them in a past life. You relax within when you acknowledge each other. You feel blessed to finally find what your soul was searching for. You know that you would do anything to be with your Twin Flame. Here is what you do when your Twin Flame is married to someone else.
You want to take care of him or her. You want to protect them. You feel happy when you see a Twin Flame smile. Feeling connected to a Twin Flame feels like you are connected to the source of happiness. You feel peaceful. You feel energized and empowered to explore yourself. When you find each other, you realize why previous relationships that you have had before did not work out. You understand why you never felt content with your previous relationships.
When it comes to Twin Flames, there is a lot of hypersensitivity and explosive emotions. Small issues are always arguments. It feels like you are walking on eggshells when you try to talk about the uncomfortable conversations.
Twin Flame fights tend to arise because of the complicated nature of the encounter. The situation seems chaotic. The explosive emotions that you feel are challenging to fathom.
If you ask most Twin Flames who have had fights with their partner, he or she does not have a clear idea why they fought. The rifts between Twin Flames are caused by mainly the inner pain that each individual inhabits. If a Twin Flame carries so much pain within itself, it is exposed by the encounter.
When a runner is in the process of disconnection, the pain is more exposed. It is during the moments of runningthat you hurt a Twin Flame. I prematurely expressed my feelings to him. I did not know then that I was going through the Twin Flame experience. I thought that it was his fault that I felt the chaotic emotions. I thought that staying away from him to ease the pain that I was feeling.
I also told him that I love him. He was very confused why I said that I love him yet I wanted him out of my life. I was very confused about why my heart loved him but I had so much fear within myself. The situation was dire when I ran from my Twin Flame. I hurt him with my running behaviors. When I realized that I had hurt him, I apologized to him for causing so much pain. I also told him that I had inner issues to deal with. I had to grow and change my behaviors.
You cannot escape Twin Flame Soul intimacy: You feel oneness. You feel like you are disappearing into each other when you are together. To love a Twin Flame unconditionally, you have to share the love with him or her without losing yourself in the process.(Simple Self-love Tips)
This is quite challenging because you keep melting into each other in every aspect. Psychologically, Physically, Psychologically, and Spiritually. We all Twin Flames suffer and struggle with the pain of physical separation when it happens. The feelings of abandonment and isolation keep you in limbo.
You have no idea how to reconcile the chaotic emotions that take over you. You feel lost, helpless, and hopeless. A Twin Flame encounter indeed changes your life forever. It destabilizes what you thought was the norm. It gives you a paradigm shift about yourself and the world around you.
Meeting a Twin Flame brings alchemical transformations into your life. When you are with a Twin Flame you both feel each other. You believe in your connection. You are in harmonious energetic vibration. You both see into each other’s Souls.
You can never choose to meet a Twin Flame and the events that unfold after your initial encounter are all beyond your control. You can meet a Twin Flame when you are both single but not ready to confront your feelings for each other which can cause a temporary separation. One of the reasons why a Twin Flame would choose to marry someone else over you is because they could be afraid of feeling vulnerable when they are around you. It is not your fault.
A Twin Flame would deny themselves the blessings of a union with you because he or she does not feel worthy of pure love. It could be that the overwhelming feelings they have for you trigger so much pain within themselves that they had buried within themselves. Not every Twin Flame is ready to confront the chaotic Twin Flame emotions.
Not everyone that has met a Twin Flame is willing to change their life situation to pursue a union. The changes that we Twin Flames go through are accelerated, unexpected, and not in our power to control the nature of the process of change. A Twin Flame would therefore choose to run into marriage with someone else because it feels easier and safe.
Fearing the changes & uncertainty when you meet a Twin Flame, it is not always roses and peaches. You go through excruciating chaotic emotions. Your dreams change. Your emotional well-being is destabilized. You go through a series of energetic cleansing. You are forced to make a change to align yourself with the new Twin Flame shared energy.
When I was new to the Twin Flame experiences, I did not admit that I was a Twin Flame. I did not want to go through scary experiences. Societal pressure some Twin Flames are forced to marry someone else because of the pressure from family and friends. In cases of arranged marriages, you cannot intervene if your Twin Flame family has the power to choose. The wrong match for relationships even though you share a bond with your Twin Flame, it is not a guarantee that you are a perfect match for a relationship.
This is the most difficult part of the Twin Flame journey; finding the inner strength to give your Twin Flame the space they need if they are still committed in a relationship. Since the Twin Flame encounter is unplanned, you have no expectations when you meet your Twin Flame and you never know that after you separate, they will be the most important person in your life forever.
The most difficult part of letting go is the first step of separation; you can physically distance yourself from your Twin Flame and stop communicating with them. If you block your Twin Flame out of your life completely, you will always miss them terribly but if you dearly love the, you know that you both deserve some time apart to confront the nature of your Twin Flame relationship. The physical separation is healthy especially if your Twin Flame is married because for the following reasons: (Surrender Tips for beginners)
You do not want to get involved in your Twin Flame’s karmic issues because they have to learn their Soul lessons so that they can transform and grow.
Also, if you are constantly in your Twin Flame’s life, you become a distraction which delays the process of dissolving their karmic ties to have a chance to be with you.
You also do not want to make your Twin Flame cheat on their karmic partner with you – if they have marital obligations to fulfill, you need to give them the space that they need.
All in all, trust that if your Twin Flame loves you, they will do anything in their power to free themselves so that they can be with you. Nothing can ever sever the Twin Flame bond.
Every Twin Flame whether you are a chaser or runner, you have a dream to finally reunite with your Twin Flame eventually after the physical separation phase. It is very antagonizing and heart-wrenching when the communication between you and your Twin Flame becomes estranged and this happens for various reasons.
Also when the physical separation phase prolongs, you begin to worry that your Twin Flame would never return which increases your doubts about your Twin Flame experiences because sometimes you wonder if you are being delusional having faith in the connection that you feel within. Here are some facts that you have to face at any stage of your Twin Flame journey:
You do not know when the separation will end. When you initially separate from a Twin Flame, you believe that you would see your Twin Flame soon but it never turns out to be that way because you realize that the changes happening in your life are divinely guided and for your good. You also realize that your connection to your Twin Flame is sacred because you feel connected to them nonetheless and the Spiritual awakening that you go through brings enlightenment into your life.
For me, I started with simple things. Here are some things to consider.
You must choose to be happy in every moment. And this means starting with simplifying your tasks to make it easy enough for you to enjoy whatever you are doing. The less stress you put in your life situation, the easier life will become for you to live and the more you will enjoy living it.
I choose to be happy in everything I do it became part of my nature. It was difficult to do at first because I needed to CHANGE my thought process. I learned to quiet the negative thoughts that felt like torture to me.
I used to constantly torture myself with incessant negative thinking. I used to feel anxious all the time for no reason because I was in my mind all the time.
Have empathy for yourself
Do you ever realize how easy it is to have empathy for others but it is difficult and uncomfortable to show it to yourself?
This is because we tend to forget ourselves in the story. We forget that we are the main character and the creators of the story.
If you look around your life situation, you will realize that you have been ignoring yourself in so many ways that everyone around you is happy with you but you are not happy with yourself because you don’t know who you are.
Society constantly tells us to not be “selfish” therefore you do everything in your power to never be selfish or look selfish because you will be looked upon.
When it comes to loving yourself, being selfish is what is needed. This is when you focus on accumulating unconditional love towards yourself until it overflows to everyone and everything you focus your energy on.
To have self-love is when you feel happy about who you are as an individual, and you are proud of everything that you represent.
Like Oprah says; “You must keep your cup full”
Honor your preferences and life choices
When you honor your preferences and life choices, you realize that you feel happy about your life situation because you don’t have any guilt for making whatever choice that you make.
Hug your Inner child
Hugging your inner child means accepting the most basic element of your being. Your inner child is still within you no matter how much life has brought your way over the years. When you look at your life closely at yourself in the mirror, you will see your inner child staring right back at you and if you get uncomfortable feelings when you look at your inner child in the eyes, just know that you need to face the core wounding, and the fear from within you to feel happy.
Keep your Inner Child happy and you will be happy.
Be patient with yourself
Whenever you attempt at doing a task, be patient with how you think of yourself in the scenario because the more expectations you put up for yourself, the more stress you will accumulate for yourself. Relax, and be under pressure to be perfect. The more you trust yourself to successfully finish your tasks, the more you will feel happy about yourself.
When it comes to being patient, also forgive yourself when you make a mistake. Self-forgiveness is the highway to General Happiness.
You have to identify your daily irritants
You have to fix, replace, amend, or get rid of them altogether. If not dealt with quickly, daily irritants can annoy you and stay on your mind while passively draining your energy. If you have buried within you feelings of anger, fear, resentment, and past hurts, you feel like you have an anchor weighing you down. Forgiveness is the best way to release any emotional blockages. Forgiveness can also release you from physical ailments.
When you hold a grudge against someone, you usually fail to communicate your feelings to the person. If you do not forgive, it is challenging to move past the point of anger or pain after feeling hurt. It is also very uncomfortable to feel at ease or trust the person with whom you had an angry confrontation. When you express your feelings and find forgiveness, it recaptures your natural state.
Forgiveness allows you to move through negative emotions to release them. When you have released all the negative emotions, you return to a state of love and acceptance. Forgiveness also releases your flow of joy and creativity. There are many ways you can express your truth and anger. The goal is to move towards forgiveness and love.
To conclude this, remember to be present in your life situation. Be mindful of your thought processes, be present when making choices and consciously accumulate happiness in everything that you do.
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My advice is simple: This helped me to feel better.
You are your own best friend
If you have been chasing your Twin Flame, you know that no matter how much you contact him or her, the pain does not go away. You have to accept that whatever chaotic emotions you are feeling are because of the pain that you carry within. You have to first fix yourself. There is a good reason why being separated from Twin Flames hurts you. Love exists to heal you and not to make you frustrated. You have to break down all the walls that you have built against love.
Embrace a life of solitude
Every authentic Twin Flame will tell you that a Twin Flame encounter is not all about having a physical relationship. It is much deeper than that. Matter of fact, once you separate from a Twin Flame, your perspective of love, relationships, sex, and intimacy changes. You gain a new appreciation for falling in love. Your Twin Flame also spoils having connections with a non-Twin Flame.
Being celibate after meeting a Twin Flame is not by choice. It just happens to you. So, embrace it!
Do not look for outside validation
It is okay to research your Twin Flame condition. It is not okay to try to make other people justify how you feel. You already know how you feel within.
Be guided by your intuition — trust the connection that you feel. Believe in the bond that you share. Believe in the authenticity of your connection because only you understand what is going on.
It is worse when you look for answers from people who are not going through the Twin Flame experiences. You will be regarded as obsessive. Crazy. Unhinged. Desperate. Etc.
Lastly but not least — Ground yourself in your Twin Flame energy
This was the most difficult thing for me to do but once I got a hang of it, my life changed magically.
Grounding in your energy begins with accepting how you feel. Your old life will never come back — you will forever be changed alchemically.
The encounter changes you psychologically, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
One truth that is common to every Twin Flame is that you feel a rise in your energetic vibrations once you merge. You feel like your energy is not yours — like you downloaded into each other.
You must learn to preserve your energy: surround yourself with positive vibes. Spend time alone to meditate. Meditating heals you. Bring inner harmony to you. Meditation also improves your telepathic abilities.