I too was married when I met my Twin Flame. I went through a series of emotional pain to understand what had come over me. I believed that I was happy with my ordinary life situation but changes took over my life after our encounter. I understand your frustration because you are in my Twin Flame shoes.
I have a few tips for you that might help you to find inner peace while you trust that you will eventually reunite with your married Twin Flame. Life gets easier and better as you learn to couple with your Twin Flame’s absence.
I know some people will advise you to leave your Twin Flame alone, but, you must know where you are standing. You do not want to be left on the sidelines. You also do not want to wait on somebody who will never return. I learned that the beauty of the Twin Flame connection is that it is authentic – you cannot fake it or disguise the love feelings.
Even though your Twin Flame is stuck in a karmic relationship; no matter how complicated the situation is, you both acknowledge each other. The most important questions to ask yourselves are — How do you proceed? How do you live the rest of your lives knowing that a Twin Flame exists? And, if you acknowledge your Twin Flame, what do you do to spend the rest of your life with him or her?
The reason why you need closure is that you must be on the same wavelength as your Twin Flame. Even though he blocks you, if you know that he is doing it for a good reason, then you have to respect his need for space.
Separate your marital situation from your Twin Flame experiences
Treat the two situations differently; Your Twin Flame is not a rebound or an excuse to hide behind if you are having challenges with your marriage. Just know that how you treat your husband and your karmic situation says so much about you to your Twin Flame.
You must understand that your husband is important in your life too. You learn profound love lessons with your karmic partner.
I am grateful to my husband that I found my Twin Flame because they have been friends for over two decades, and when the time was right, we finally met.
My Twin Flame and I both respect my ex-husband very much because if it weren’t for him, we would never have met.
Don’t treat your Twin Flame as a new relationship partner
This is where the guilt comes from because it feels as if you are cheating on your marriage if you treat your experience as a rebound.
The Twin Flame experience is more about your Spiritual growth than the ordinary physical relationship. Embrace the wave of change that comes your way so that you can evolve into your authentic self.
Focus on the spiritual ascension, and growth — let your journey take its natural course and trust that everything is divinely guided.
Whether you stay in your marriage or not, your Spiritual Awakening will come over you and you will transform into your authentic self.
Don’t discuss the topic of TWIN FLAMES with either your husband or your Twin Flame.
You will sound delusional if you discuss your Twin Flame journey with your Twin Flame, and your husband will automatically feel betrayed by you.
Remember that for you to understand the Twin Flame experience, you must first go through it.
The more you discuss your experience with those who do not understand you, the more you feel confused about your journey.
Be Brave and TRUST your journey if you truly believe that you have met your Twin Flame. First, allow yourself to grow spiritually.
You will find better ways to explain it later along the way once you understand the dynamics of your journey.
Separate your Twin Flame situation from your Life situation
This is where it is the most challenging for married Twin Flames. I know that most Twin Flames don’t want to hear this but a temporary physical separation from your Twin Flame is healthy for both of you.
There is so much to “unpack” once you meet a Twin Flame; emotionally, and energetically — it feels as if you are both downloading into each other — the energy share is very quick, and unnoticeable until you are physically separate.
The realization of the energy share can throw you into turbulent emotional chaos because your energy feels entangled in each other.
The energetic share was so challenging to go through because I still felt connected to my Twin Flame even though he was back on his continent. I was triggered into a spiritual ascension and I was always moody.
Don’t look for justification from your friends or those around you. Not everybody in your life will understand how you feel because the Twin Flame journey is all about you.
Almost every Twin Flame has been through this phase. You never expect the situation to get complicated the way it does. No matter how much you try to control the chaos that follows suit, your efforts are fruitless.
Whatever your dreams and desires are for your Twin Flame experiences, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve them no matter the obstacles that stand in the way.
Believe in the outcomes of your Twin Flame journey like you have nothing to lose because soon or later, all your heart’s desires will come true.
If you want to be successful at creating the desired life of your Twin Flame reunion, you must believe that you are capable of making it happen — you have to believe in your experiences and the connection that you feel whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence, self-assurance.
Believing in yourself as a Twin Flame is a deep-seated belief that you have the inner power to control yourself, embrace change, and accept to grow and transform into the authentic version of yourself that is ready for a reunion.
Having faith and belief in your Twin Flame experiences is an attitude that you develop over time by breaking free from self-limiting beliefs, and the negative conditioning that you previously went through before the encounter. It is your responsibility to take charge of your self-concepts and beliefs because, at the end of the day, the only person that you can control is yourself.
Believing in yourself also requires you to assume in favor of yourself, act as if it is possible and do the things that are necessary to bring about the desired results. You can accomplish anything if you simply believe that it is possible.
Remember that being a runner or chaser from a relationship view is only a matter of perspective — From my experience, since Twin Flames are one in the soul, there is no distinction to the inflow of their energy because of the shared energy vibration but if you look at it from the physical perspective, it may seem like one is either a runner or a chaser.
I believe that the roles of being a chaser or a runner in Twin Flame can flip flop depending on the energy dynamics of the Twin Flames.
Even if you believe that you are the chaser, you still feel your Twin Flame’s energy within you so that means that you also have an idea of what it means to be a runner. Also, the energy easily changes back and forth from being a runner to being a chaser.
When I ran from him at the beginning of our separation, I was chasing him with my mind and my energy because I was obsessed with thinking of him and I kept wondering what he thought of me when I ran from him.
When he said that I make him “uncomfortable” and it was best if we did not talk, I grew feelings of chasing because that triggered my insecurities of abandonment and the fear of losing him.
Even if he was not responding to my texts, I wrote him a very long letter explaining my awakening, and I thanked him for Ignoring me and hiding from me because it made me stronger to focus on healing myself. I told him about my future aspirations, my goals, and my dreams to simplify my life and also focus on my life mission to help others like I always dreamed of.
Opening up myself like this to him gave me so much inner freedom because I knew that he knows that I am not upset with him for ignoring me, and he knows that I am going to keep myself happy without him being physically present in my life.
After I opened up to him, it opened me up completely to embrace my healing to keep living my life — slowly as I settled into surrender, I started to have the inner freedom to not obsess about my Twin Flame.
I don’t know what you would call this but after two years of being physically separated, I went through so much pain and I am now happy on my own without the help of my Twin Flame.
Finding your Twin Flame is like a curse; the encounter changes your paradigm of life generally.
You start to seek love within – the more you seek, the more you rediscover the essence of life.
The Twin Flame experiences happen within you. You have to surrender to the infinite love that you feel within yourself.
It is a journey that you take within yourself; it is an exploration of what makes you – rediscovering your authenticity.
As you progress further along your journey, you realize that you are mirrors of each other. You feel the same way your Twin Flame feels because you operate as a single energetic unit. You have the same frequency of energetic vibration.
The physical separation phase that you go through tests your faith in love. There are moments when you want to give up on your Twin Flame if they are running from you. The heart feels stuck on them.
Any thoughts that you have about severing the bond scare you; it feels impossible to detach from a Twin Flame.
The love that you feel for a Twin Flame is grandeur. You feel like the universe is expanding within you when you look into their eyes.
What should you expect to know as a Twin Flame newbie?
There is no turning back to your old life – it does not matter how many times you try.
You must be ready to make room for the new changes that will take over your life.
You must keep an open heart to the alchemical transformations that you will go through.
Faith is your magical weapon:
The moment you lose faith in your Twin Flame connection, you will feel lost and helpless. You will feel doubtful and discouraged sometimes.
Sometimes you will be in disbelief that you are feeling pure unconditional love. On other days will feel like you are going crazy; you will wonder if you are making it all up in your mind.
The connection is what it is; you have to always believe in how you feel.
Be ready to face your greatest fears. You will go through very trying moments:
There are days when you will feel like letting go altogether; you will feel frustrated by the loneliness when you miss a Twin Flame.
The emotional desolation that you will feel cannot be quenched by anything else but Twin Flame love. It is possible to overcome the stressful phases of the Twin Flame process.
Missing a Twin Flame is like missing a limb. The soul always aches to be merged in every aspect of it.
Everyone has a Twin Flame somewhere out there:
Everyone deserves to experience great unconditional love. You are blessed to be one of the lucky few who get to meet their great love in this lifetime.
If your experience does not align with the advice of other Twin Flames, don’t fret it. Just know that everyone experiences the process differently.
Some people’s experiences can also mirror yours sometimes. It does not mean that you are the same. We are all unique as human beings, and so is each Twin Flame pair.
I made a lot of mistakes when I was new to the Twin Flame journey because I did not have a guide.
The Twin Flame experience is under the influence of divine timing:
You must align yourself with the process of the journey and flow with it instead of resisting the connection.
Keep your heart open to receive your blessings.
When you learn to unlock each piece of the puzzle of your Twin Flame process, you start to understand the true meaning of each lesson that you learned along the way.