Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempts to escape the negative, avoid it, squash it, or silence it only backfire. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is struggling. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.
One of life’s realities is that major improvements take time; improvements do not happen overnight. When you have very high expectations of instant gratification, you will get disappointed when it does not happen.
Becoming a master at anything takes time; you have to commit to never-ending practice and improvement. You have to hone your skills through constant practice and refinement. It takes years to have depth and breadth of your experiences to achieve expertise, insight, and wisdom.
When you are struggling, you will see every adversity as an injustice, every challenge as a failure, every inconvenience as a personal slight, and every disagreement as a betrayal. You will be confined to your own petty, skull-sized hell. Burning with entitlement and bluster. Running in circles in circles of your own feedback loop from hell. In constant motion yet arriving nowhere.
You have to learn how to focus and prioritize your thoughts effectively. Learn how to pick and choose what does and what does not matter to you by honoring your choices and preferences. You have finely honed personal values to achieve results.
It takes a lifetime of practice and declines to achieve the results. You will regularly fail. But it is perhaps the most worthy struggle one can undertake in one’s life. Perhaps it is the only struggle.