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I know the energetic pull very well. It is more of a compulsion. I have been there many many times. Sometimes I would distract myself all day with all sorts of activities but then find myself pulled into thinking of him. Sometimes I would see something that reminded me of a memory of him.
I forced myself to surrender many times but I always felt as if I was running from myself. It felt as if I was blocking the connection.
Surrendering to self-love is not easy either. It is very challenging to grow the emotional muscle to focus on yourself when your Twin Flame is on your mind 24/7. Sometimes you live in a life situation where you don’t have enough time to focus on yourself. You could have children to take care of and support. You could be very busy at work all week.
I know this sounds like a cliché but no one will save you from feeling like this. Sometimes meeting a Twin Flame feels like an eternal curse. There is nothing you can do to change the nature of your bond. You are connected forever.
These simple tips helped me to stop feeling powerless:
- Sit with your pain
Do not hide from it. Do not judge yourself for feeling it. Let it pass through Ulysses by accepting how you feel. Do not put up any resistance to it.
Suffering from your fears and insecurities is what allows you to build courage and perseverance.
Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempts to escape the negative, to avoid it or squash it or silence it, only backfire. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is struggling. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.
To achieve healing is to water down life’s most terrifying and difficult challenges and still take action.
- Have a Positive Focus
You have to learn how to focus and prioritize your thoughts effectively. Learn how to pick and choose what does and what does not matter to you by honoring your choices and preferences. You have finely honed personal values to achieve results.
It takes a lifetime of practice and declines to achieve the results. You will regularly fail. But it is perhaps the most worthy struggle one can undertake in one’s life.
When you are struggling, you will see every adversity as an injustice, every challenge as a failure, every inconvenience as a personal slight, and every disagreement as a betrayal. You will be confined to your own petty, skull-sized hell. Burning with entitlement and bluster. Running in circles in circles of your feedback loop from hell. In constant motion yet arriving nowhere.
- Be comfortable with being different
The journey always goes on. Then you hide your emotional pain, and you create a world of despair. You feel indifferent to the world and yourself. You hide in a gray, emotionless pit of your own making. You always feel self-pity perpetually distracting yourself from living life to the fullest.